Working on Yourself Before Getting Into a Relationship

After a bad breakup, you may feel that you never want to trust another soul with your heart ever again. — Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D. If you are unaware of who you are before you begin a relationship, you are more likely to lose yourself throughout the course of the relationship. People in relationships often focus […]

Why You’re Only Hurting Yourself by Remaining Friends

Because our nervous system is wired to need others, rejection is painful. Romantic rejection especially hurts. — Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT Many people would like to remain friends with their exes even after the nastiest of breakups. After all, it’s only natural to want to be near the person who you have grown close to […]

What to Do When Your Friends and Family Hurt You 

“Should I breakup with him?” That is the question that my client Carly struggled with as she sat in on my couch, moving her right crossed leg back and forth with a nervous, oscillating kick. — John D. Moore, PhD Your significant other isn’t the only person who can break your heart. Heartbreak can be […]

How to Prevent Yourself From Acting on Feelings

We’ve all experienced that moment when our feelings for someone overpower our emotions. Every waking moment is spent thinking about them and formulating a plan to convince them to love us back and to forget all the reasons why it won’t work. If you’ve been unfortunate enough to act on these feelings, you know that […]

Not All Heartbreak Occurs Outside of Relationships  

Heartbreak hurts. Loss is shattering. Put these two together and you’ve got the lovely one-two punch that can come with breakups of short-lived or long-term relationships. — Danielle B. Grossman, MFT Not all relationships have to end in order to cause you heartbreak. Sometimes, you can get your heart broken by staying in a toxic […]

Harmful Behaviors That Destroy Relationships

To a great extent, we live in a culture that resists and fears emotion. From the time we’re babies we’re taught to quickly shut off “negative” feelings like anger, sadness or pain. — Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. If your relationships keep falling apart one after the other, you may want to take into consideration the behavior […]

Practicing Self-Care After Heartbreak

We are seeking stability. When we feel we can’t internally create it, it is quite possible to engage in unhealthy new relationships that cover up healthy relationship grieving. — Nathan Feiles, LCSW When we think about heartbreak, we often imagine the messy, depressed, chocolate-eating people that we see in films and TV. We expect ourselves to […]