I’m in a very good place right now and extremely fulfilled with my second marriage. You read that right – SECOND MARRIAGE. I was once divorced and it took me a year to recuperate. Yes, 12 months and 5 days was all it took for me to finally realize that I was over my ex – the father of my beautiful children, my high school love turned “heart terrorist” for the next 10 years of my life. But it’s ok. If not for him, I wouldn’t be as strong as I am now and I wouldn’t have had my darling angels.
There’s no feeling worse than the pain of a failed relationship. But don’t worry, as they say, ‘nothing lasts forever,’ not your relationship, nor your heartbreak. Moving on may take time but you’ll never know how happier you’d become if you never start.
One way or another, you might have heard of a cliche line used by some couples when they split. For some, it may seem funny. But it doesn’t really feel that way, especially when you’re the one dealing with a break up. To part ways with the person you care for the most is very difficult. It often leaves a lasting scar on your heart. How do you move on from that?
A heads up to anyone struggling in their relationships! ‘It takes two to tango,’ but even when the efforts are made by two people, it may not always work.
Being in a relationship is extremely wonderful. You get to be with someone you love who can help you accomplish your goals and dreams. He/ She can take you to many beautiful places, and serve as your inspiration so you won’t lose sight of your vision in life. Most of the time, they make your heart flutter with their simple presence, hugs and kisses. We live for these little and big things. But, the most important thing to consider is whether you’re investing your time and future in the RIGHT person.
Certainly, passions pitted against each other create polarities that plague everyone from the family who each want to go to a different movie, to a nation that stands toe to toe, as adversaries. — Dorothy Firman Ed.D. LMHC, BCC
Life can be messy at times. For some, life was never smooth sailing. In these times, hope can be very important. Hope keeps us above the waters. But sadly, hope is as real as hopelessness.
Hopelessness may feel protective, and it may feel unsafe to push it away or replace it with another feeling. — Elana Premack Sandler L.C.S.W., M.P.H
What hopelessness does is a very sad and discouraging reality. It paralyzes us and makes submit to the very same situation over and over again. It limits us and chains us down so we may never see a stint of hope.
Hopelessness is dangerous. It blinds us to the reality that tomorrow will come. Hopelessness makes us a fool by letting us believe that there can no longer be a better place for us. It deceives us to never try again.
When a relationship is over, feelings of rejection can numb your sense of self and wreck your balance. — Deborah L. Davis Ph.D.
It’s official and you just hit rock-bottom. You and your spouse have just signed the papers that legally dissolved your marriage. Your marriage might have been short or long. It may have been great or bittersweet, but all that is over now and both of you have to deal with the aftermath. The issue now is how to start moving forward.