Every human being experience heartbreak. Whatever is the nature of the relationship, when mutual trust, understanding, and feelings of love wanes, moving on can be a tremendous struggle.
Unfortunately, there’s not a magic number for how many weeks it takes to get over a bad break-up, but if you find your thoughts are getting in the way of you moving forward and your friends are tired of hearing you complain, then those are two signs it’s time to get yourself together and move forward. — Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.
Most of us would agree that mending a broken heart is never easy. This is especially true if your feelings towards the person are genuine and you have exerted all the efforts to build and sustain the relationship. You have invested a lot of emotional elements to the relationship.
Recovery from heartbreak goes through an excruciating process. The person could go to episodes of depression up to the extent of ending their sorrows by committing suicide. It may sound heinous and exaggerated for some individuals hearing that a person would take their own lives for just reasons of heartbreak. In fact, literature has contributed much to this behavior like the tragic end of Romeo and Juliet or Mark Anthony and Cleopatra.
So how do you get beyond the pain? Many people seek therapy to recover from a broken heart, especially if the consequences are already far more noticeable and affecting their daily lives. The purpose of this article is to offer the readers some commendable steps identified by psychiatrists on how to help oneself recover from heartbreaks.
You don’t need to be a psychologist to note the very harsh effects of a breakup on a person’s mental health. When a relationship ends, humiliation, rage, loneliness, anguish and grief all seem to simultaneously show up at the door, marching in arm-in-arm to parade noisily around our psyche. — Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
Allow Yourself To Feel The Pain.Some persons are in denial about the heartbreak. They tend to show strong emotions about it, but the danger is when everything boils up because the emotions are kept hidden. Once it spews into a volatile mental breakdown, the problem becomes more complicated. It is only when we feel our pain we can deal with it. The moment you start crying and allowing yourself to grieve, there will be a sense of acceptance and the feeling to move as follows.
Let Your Emotions Flow. As difficult as it may seem, gradually try to feel better. It is understandable to feel sad and lonely for some time. However, it’s no longer healthy if your depression lasts for more than six weeks or longer. If so, this can be clinical depression already, and you need a further evaluation from a psychiatrist or psychologist.
Just as there is a commitment to being together, breakups don’t actually happen unless one or both partners is committed to remaining apart. It often takes tremendous will to not call, text, email, or visit, or to not respond to messages from a recent ex. —
Make Initial Steps Towards Reclaiming Yourself. Start a list of what you can do now that you are single, perhaps starting an online business or go to school again. Breathe in the new air into your being. This may be the right time to reinvent yourself and discover what talents, skills, and performance set are you still capable of doing.
Make A List Of What You Are Thankful For.Remembering things that should be thankful for can boost your well -being. Even if our love story ended painfully, understand that the experience was a blessing and everything has a purpose.
Pay It Forward. Kindness towards others can make you feel good about yourself, increase your self-worth and helps relieve depression. Joining some volunteer groups can divert your attention from all the heartaches plus an opportunity to meet new friends. Who knows, this can be a venue for you to meet someone who will give sparkle to your eyes once again.
Self-Care Is A Must. Lastly, do take care of your body. Never allow depression to take over, making you neglect physical care. Get some exercise. Eat healthy food that is high in fiber, protein, and nutrients. It can boost your mood and liven up your energy.
As they say, time heal all wounds. Give yourself a break and enjoy what life has given you. It may be impossible, but you can make it through. Even if you can’t imagine being open to love again, you certainly will, profoundly and intensely as you did before.