Sleep: The Healer of the Mind and Body 


You see the clock and realize you have four hours left before your alarm sounds. You think about everything you must do the next day and how miserable it will feel doing it exhausted. — Lauren Woolley, PhD

So many things have been said about how to have beautiful skin, healthy bones, and a sound mind and body. Exercise is at the top of the list for what steps to take, just before eating the right types of food, but what of sleep and its healing powers? Does sleep really lighten the spirit, repair the body, and ease the mind? Why has sleep been suggested to cure the symptoms of depression and why do you get depressed when you are sleep-deprived? You may be surprised to know that getting enough sleep heals more than just those late afternoon mood swings.   Continue reading Sleep: The Healer of the Mind and Body 

Working on Yourself Before Getting Into a Relationship

After a bad breakup, you may feel that you never want to trust another soul with your heart ever again. — Suzanne Degges-White Ph.D.

If you are unaware of who you are before you begin a relationship, you are more likely to lose yourself throughout the course of the relationship. People in relationships often focus so much of their attention on the other person’s desires and happiness that they forget about their own personality and interests. They spend all of their time working on their identity as a couple that they forget about their own identity. This is the easiest way to ruin your relationship and to get your heart broken. Before you start a new relationship, use these methods to help you find yourself.     


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Why You’re Only Hurting Yourself by Remaining Friends


Because our nervous system is wired to need others, rejection is painful. Romantic rejection especially hurts. — Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT

Many people would like to remain friends with their exes even after the nastiest of breakups. After all, it’s only natural to want to be near the person who you have grown close to and who made you happy once upon a time. However, continuing to be friends with your ex can have damaging effects on both the already deteriorating relationship as well as your fragile state of mind. Here’s why.  

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What to Do When Your Friends and Family Hurt You 

“Should I breakup with him?” That is the question that my client Carly struggled with as she sat in on my couch, moving her right crossed leg back and forth with a nervous, oscillating kick. —

Your significant other isn’t the only person who can break your heart. Heartbreak can be caused by friends and family as well. However, it can be more difficult to deal with these people since it can be harder to walk away from them. If you’re surrounded by toxic or rude friends and family who are harming you emotionally or physically, use the 6 tips below to help you deal with them.    Continue reading What to Do When Your Friends and Family Hurt You 

How Heartbreak Affects Your Health  

When someone has broken your heart, it can seem as though every cell in your body is in mourning. The emotional pain that is brought on by grief combined with the physical pain caused by illness such as depression and cardiomyopathy can be debilitating to those dealing with heartbreak. For those who are suffering but who are in the dark about why your loss is affecting you, here are some ways that heartbreak affects your health.  


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How to Prevent Yourself From Acting on Feelings

We’ve all experienced that moment when our feelings for someone overpower our emotions. Every waking moment is spent thinking about them and formulating a plan to convince them to love us back and to forget all the reasons why it won’t work. If you’ve been unfortunate enough to act on these feelings, you know that they could get you into a far worse situation than simply having a broken heart. However, it can be difficult in the moment to keep these feelings to yourself. How can you prevent yourself from acting on these feelings?  Continue reading How to Prevent Yourself From Acting on Feelings

Not All Heartbreak Occurs Outside of Relationships  

Heartbreak hurts. Loss is shattering. Put these two together and you’ve got the lovely one-two punch that can come with breakups of short-lived or long-term relationships. —

Not all relationships have to end in order to cause you heartbreak. Sometimes, you can get your heart broken by staying in a toxic relationship and allowing your partner to repeat behaviors that harm you emotionally or physically. These types of relationships can wear you down over time and make you feel as though this type of treatment is the only thing that you deserve. End the cycle and free yourself from these types of relationships by identifying, in your relationship, any of the behaviors below.   Continue reading Not All Heartbreak Occurs Outside of Relationships  

Harmful Behaviors That Destroy Relationships

To a great extent, we live in a culture that resists and fears emotion. From the time we’re babies we’re taught to quickly shut off “negative” feelings like anger, sadness or pain. — Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

If your relationships keep falling apart one after the other, you may want to take into consideration the behavior that your significant other is seeing. Behaviors, good or bad, determine the fate of the relationship and there are certain behaviors that could ruin a relationship almost immediately. For those of you who are having trouble holding onto a partner, take a look at the list of behaviors below that could contribute to the end of a relationship.   Continue reading Harmful Behaviors That Destroy Relationships

Practicing Self-Care After Heartbreak


We are seeking stability. When we feel we can’t internally create it, it is quite possible to engage in unhealthy new relationships that cover up healthy relationship grieving. — 

When we think about heartbreak, we often imagine the messy, depressed, chocolate-eating people that we see in films and TV. We expect ourselves to be emotionally fragile and unkempt when we have our hearts broken. However, these expectations can lead us to develop deeper emotional issues. Creating a self-care routine is important for individuals who have recently gone through a divorce or a breakup that has left them emotionally damaged. While it is still okay to have a rainy day once in a while, here are some ways that you can practice self-care after heartbreak.  Continue reading Practicing Self-Care After Heartbreak